The class of 1966, Borger High School, has
lost another friend and class mate.
For those who could not make it to Bobby's Memorial
Service.
If you have a story or memory of Bobby and
would like to have it posted on this web page please e-mail it to me. John@Brummal.com
Standing left to right: Gavin, Jennifer, David, Danny,
Carolyn, Mike.
kneeling left to right: Rebecca, Lauren, Erin.
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Bobby wanted his memorial service to be full of laughter. Below is the
e-mail he sent to the friends that he asked to speak at his Memorial Service.
Hey
Guys,
How
you doing? This is a pretty strange email but since each of you have
agreed to say
a few "kind" words at my funeral,
David Simpson, a good friend
of mine and my funeral director
(that's a pretty strange combination but Simpson is a pretty strange person),
has suggested I get you guys in touch with each other so you can coordinate what
you are going to say. This should prevent the first guy from saying what
the third guy was planning on saying. The only two rules I want to impose
are, keep it to five minutes or less (that way you won't lose your audience)
and, keep it light. I think it would be wonderful to have people laughing.
Other than those two rules, you
are
pretty much on your own. I really can't thank you guys enough for doing
this for me. I thank the good Lord every day that I have friends like you.
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Lauren,
Bobby's Granddaughter, read
the following poem.
Untitled
One gift, above all others
God gives to us to treasure
One that knows no time, no place
And one gold cannot measure
the precious, moving tender gift
Of Memory. . . . . . that will keep
Our dear ones ever in our hearts
Although God gives them sleep
It brings back long remembered things
A song, a word, a smile
And the world's a better place . . . because
We had them for awhile!
Author Unknown
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Thoughts
by John Brummal
Bobby
and John grew up together in Borger
I
realize most of the people here today knew him as Bob Snow but to those of us
that went to school with him, he was and always will be Bobby Snow.
I'll
get the historical stuff out of the way first.
·Bobby
was born Robert Charles Snow in
Rogers
Arkansas
on
October
16, 1947
.
·His
family moved to
Bartlesville
Oklahoma
shortly
after he was born and
then
moved to
Borger
Texas
when he
was three years old.
·In
Borger
, he
attended
Bunavista
Grade
School
, Stephen F Austin Jr High and
Borger
High
School
.
·Three
weeks after graduating from
Borger
High in
1966 he enlisted in the Air Force.
·While
in the Air Force he was stationed at Altus AFB in
Oklahoma
and RAF
(Royal Air Force) Uxbridge in
London
England
.
·He
was discharged after 3 ½ years because of Nixon's defense budget cutback.
·About
a month after his discharge he and his first wife moved to
Oklahoma City
.
·While
in Oklahoma City he worked at Tinker AFB for about 18 months and Lee Way Motor
Freight for 12 ½ years.
·In
Oklahoma
City
he was
blessed with the birth of two wonderful children, Jennifer and David.
Jennifer
and her husband Gavin McHugh along with Bobby and Carolyn's two wonderful
granddaughters Rebecca 11, and Lauren 7 are
currently stationed in Fallingbostel
Germany
.
Gavin
in a Sergeant in the British Army. David works at S2 Systems in
Plano
. He
is currently studying to enter medical school.
·In
1984, when
Lee Way
was going
out of business, he accepted a position with EDS and moved to
Dallas
.
·In
January 1995 he met Carolyn, the most wonderful lady in the world. On
June 29,
1996
, she made
him the happiest man in the world when she married him.
(Carolyn and Bobby at the mini-reunion -
Nancy's parents home)
Carolyn's
two sons Danny and Mike and Mike's wife Erin live in
Austin
.
Both
Mike and Danny work for Dell Computers.
·In
October 1999 he accepted an early retirement offer from EDS and went to work for
ACS (Affiliated Computer Services).
·This
may not sound like much to most of you but it was a very big deal when it
happened. In June 2003 Bobby and I were playing Huber golf course in
Borger
.
Bobby
grew up caddying and playing at Huber.
Number
18 (formerly number 9) is a par 4 with water in front of the green. He had
never made it over
the water in two. On that day he hit a good drive and pulled out his 3
wood and put it on the green. I will always be glad that Roger Paige and I
were there to see witness the historical event.
(This is the actual shot)
In
grade school and Jr. High he was a short and skinny kid and we called him
"Little Bobby Snow", Who would have thought he would have ended up
being 6 feet 3 inches and looking down on me?
I
was his paperboy in Fairlanes when he lived on Ocla. In the 6th grade he
was in Mr. Dickerson's class and I was across the hall in Mrs. Cox's class.
In
1963, after the 9th grade, I moved to
Lubbock
and Bobby
and I lost touch with each other. It wasn't until our class reunion in
2001 that we got back together.
When
we got back together it was like we had like we had only been apart for a few
months. We immediately became best friends. That friendship has
grown in the three years since the reunion.
One
of the first things Bobby told me was he wished he had met and married Carolyn
several years earlier.
He
also said he wished he and I would have got back together several years before
the reunion.
In
school, he was a lot more considerate than I was, he always had a smile on his
red freckled face and a kind word.
As
Carla Storm reminded me at the reunion in 2001, "you were mean"
I think she may have been right.
She can never say than about Bobby.
When
Bobby call me in January and ask me to give his eulogy I told him that I would
be honored. It is not something I wanted to do, but how could I have told
him that I did not want to do it.
At
Bobby's request, part of his ashes will be scattered over the campground across
the street from the
Indianapolis
Motor
Speedway
.
The rest will be kept in an urn so he can watch the races on TV.
As
the other people that will be speaking today will tell you, he loved the Indy
500. Since 1988 he
only missed one race.
Bobby
loved Carolyn, Bobby
loved David, Bobby
loved Jennifer, Bobby
loved Gavin, Bobby
loved Rebecca, Bobby
loved Lauren, Bobby
loved Mike
Bobby loved Erin and Bobby
loved Danny,
Bobby loved Golf, Bobby
loved the
Indianapolis
500 ,Bobby
loved going back to
Borger
for a
visit, Bobby
loved going to our cabin in Ruidoso over Labor Day weekends, Bobby
loved all his
Borger
classmates, Bobby
loved all of you and Bobby
loved me.
At
funerals you always hear how great and nice a person lived their life.
Well Bobby did live that life, he was and is a great person and a nice person.
Bobby
was ready to meet our Lord. He told me this. His passing should not
be a time of mourning, we should be happy for him. He is with his mother,
Betty, and Dad, Charles, right now, and I'm sure that his
Borger
High
Class that
preceded him in death were there to meet him. Just like he and the others will
be there to meet us when we cross over to the other side.
Bobby
wanted me to tell you the CD with the music you hear today will be available in
the lobby after the service to help defray expenses. Of course he was
joking but he insisted this service be filled with laughter.
The
last thing he wanted me to tell you is, if you are over 45-50 or if you are over
40 with a family history of colon cancer,
GET
A COLONOSCOPY.
It
is much easier spending one day drinking the preparation and a few hours at the
hospital than to spend several weeks planning your own funeral.
My
Friend Bobby Snow, we will miss you.
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Thoughts
by Mark McGough
Bobby
worked with Mark at EDS
Memories
of Bob
September 11, 2004
I’d like to first say that I am
honored to be here. My name is Mark
McGough and I met Bob almost 20 years ago at EDS. We were cube mates in
multi-colored cubicles at
701 Presidential in
Richardson
. There
are so many things I could talk about, so many great memories and fun times at
work and at play.
In the last 20 years, Bob and I experienced many things –
happy times, sad times and everything in between.
Through it all, Bob was three things to me. First, he was a very good
friend. Second, he was a big brother. And last, we were fellow race fans and
Cowboy fans.
My Good Friend
As a friend, Bob was always open, honest, and encouraging. I
can’t tell you how many times he told me that I was the luckiest man. He’d
say “Man, that Catherine is a wonderful lady.” And as my family grew, he
would say how lucky I was to have such beautiful kids... always encouraging me
to look on the bright side. He also wasn’t shy about telling me if things
weren’t going right. That’s what friends are for. Bob was a true friend.
My Big Brother
Bob was the big brother that I never really got to know.
There was an age difference between my five older brothers and me – they all
graduated from high school before I was out of the sixth grade. Oh, and the fact
that they all still live in
Hawaii
– Bob filled that void for me. He got to know my parents and spent many hours
talking to my Dad about their experiences in the Air Force.
In his sincere and inquisitive way, he showed me how easy it was to
communicate with the
Col.
, my own Dad. Bob was always asking
questions … how did you feel when that happened or what was that like? Things
I had not thought to ask. Bob had a real sincere interest in others and like a
big brother, taught me many valuable life lessons, none more important than
understanding the value of good friendships.
And communication…I’m still working on that one.
Fellow Race Fan
Then in 1995, we took our relationship to a new level: Bob
had been inviting me for years to go the Indy 500 and I finally said “yes.”
And after that week, I understood why Bob was such a big race fan. What a
great race! What a great time we had!
I found out that
the Indy 500 was not only about a car race but also about good friendships. I
met the friends that Bob had established over the previous 7 years and they were
immediately friends of mine. Bob was
the ultimate tour guide. We had each day planned and we didn’t miss any of the
important events. Nothing was left to chance.
Even in his decision as to whether to go to Indy this past
May, he thought he might go to just the race day, but then decided against it
because he would miss what he enjoyed the most, visiting with friends and
attending the other pre and post-race events. Bob was a race fan.
Did Bob ever mention to any of you that he was a Cowboy Fan?
Bob had season tickets and, before moving to
Dallas
, he would drive in from
Oklahoma City
for the games. That’s a true fan!
Bob told me there were two seasons each year, Indy 500 season
and football season. It was my observation that through both of these seasons,
the most important part was the people he met and the friendships.
He’d keep in touch with many of them throughout the year.
It was not the games or races so much, but the people, the friendships.
And no description of this fan would be complete without
mentioning that Bob was a big fan of the people here today. He was a huge fan of
his children, Jennifer and David and the granddaughters, Rebecca and Lauren.
Through years of separation, he never lost hope or tried to deny the love he had
for them.
He was a huge fan of Carolyn and the two fine young men she
raised, Mike and Danny. Bob loved
you all so very much and always wished the best for you.
Bob was very content with his life and all the decisions he
made. He told me a few months ago that “I wouldn’t change a thing except for
one; I would have gotten a colonoscopy sooner.” I’m sure each of you knows
how big a fan of the colonoscopy Bob became and of his wish that each of us
would be a big fan as well.
What I’ll Miss
In closing, here are a few things I‘ll miss about Bob:
-
His encouraging words and “can do” attitude
-
Our trips to the Indy 500
-
His organizational skills
-
His phone calls to me just to check in
-
Watching races or Cowboy games together
-
His honesty and sincerity
-
His simple country wisdom
-
His true Texas Spirit
-
His friendship
Goodbye friend. I will never forget you.
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Seeing how you added the email Bob sent to us got me
thinking. Bob sent this to me and said it really gave me
strength when he was down. I wish I had remembered and
included it my "kind" words. Maybe you could add the highlighted
part of Jimmy V's speech to the web site.
When
people say to me how do you get through life or each day, it's the same thing.
To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this
every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day.
Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. Number three is, you
should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think
about it. If you laugh, you think and you cry, that's a full day. That's a heck
of a day. You do that seven days a week, you're going to have something special.
. Cancer
can take away all my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot
touch my heart and it cannot touch my soul. And those three things are going to
carry on forever.
Mark McGough
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The first thing that comes to mind about Bobby is his incessant laughter and
positive outlook. What a courageous soul he's always been. I can't
forget his constant, friendly smile and "Hello, Ruthie," when I saw
him in class or hallways of BHS. Never did I see him being unfriendly to
a classmate. "Your friend forever," as he always signed his
emails, weren't just words to Bobby -- he meant it. I miss those emails;
yet, I rejoice for Bobby, as he's in a far better place, having the reunion of
a lifetime! I cherish the memory of Labor Day Weekend a year ago, when I
met Bobby and Carolyn in Dallas and flew with them to El Paso. We
enjoyed our get-away to John's Ruidoso cabin more than I can relate.
He looked good, seemed to feel well, and we laughed until we cried. I
remember watching Bobby and John play golf via the golf cart -- what a good
time he had, even tho' it rained incessantly and he nearly "blew
away" when the wind caught his umbrella. I'm so blessed to have
that memory of Bobby. For now, I say this to you, Bobby Snow:
"Laughing helps. It's like jogging on the inside."
You'll be forever missed, but never forgotten.
Your friend forever, Ruth